No one likes to be judged. Sometimes, the best that we can do is simply to remind ourselves of these simple facts, the more support we can give them, and the earlier they can start receiving it, the better. That means more compassion, less eye-rolling, and more listening. 

Allow them time and space to accomplish their tasks. Influence them with love, not with criticism. 

They will accomplish what they have to do, but not on the schedule you have in mind.