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What are Executive Functions?

 

Executive function is like the CEO of the brain. It’s in charge of making sure things get done. When kids have issues with executive functioning, any task that requires planning, organization, memory, time management and flexible thinking becomes a challenge. The more you know about the challenges, the better you’ll be able to help your child build her executive skills and manage the difficulties.

Help Your Child Manage Their Moods

Kids’ moods can change in a flash – she’s happy, then bored, cranky, then sweet. No matter what your child is feeling, your first job as a parent is to empathize. Let your child know that you care what they are feeling, and you have a sense of what they are feeling. 

Managing moods is not something that people are born knowing how to do. If they don’t have good ways to deal with bad feelings, they may not have the motivation to decide to do the healthiest things. Rather than arguing about their attitude, you can: 

  • Acknowledge that they are upset, but don’t try to discuss it right now. 
  • Give them time to collect themselves. Physical activity helps kids burn off frustration.  
  •  After they are calm, then you can talk.  
  • Eat dinner together to creates a natural space for your family to talk about what’s on their minds. 
  • Talk while you’re doing other things. Keep the conversation casual by doing other things at the same time, like driving, shopping, or cooking. 
  •  Don’t dismiss what your kids are feeling. Understand where they are coming from and resist the temptation to downplay their concerns. 
  • Make sure your kids get regular physical activity. Exercise can also make kids more self-confident and feel better about themselves. 
  •  Help your kids find ways to relax. It’s important for them to find ways to chill out. Tell them to try finding a quiet spot in your home to read, draw, or listen to music. Or trying deep breathing exercises or yoga videos on YouTube. 

 Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Dealing With Sibling Rivalry

How many times have you had to play referee between your kids? If you can’t stand to stay out of your children’s fights and decide to become involved, the most effective way is to put your children in the same boat. This method makes sure there is no accidental favoritism that can erode the sibling relationship.  It honors the fact that in any conflict, both parties can influence the outcome. 

 
Since fighting requires both children to keep the situation hostile and unresolved, both should experience the same discipline for their disruptive antics, regardless of who started it, who had it first, or who owns it.  None of those matters!  If fighting erupts and doesn’t resolve itself, and you feel you must step in, try these several approaches that can help resolve conflicts: 

️☑️ Instead of intervening in every argument, talk your children through how they can stand up for themselves and try to resolve the issue before reporting to you. 

☑️ Insist that everyone take a break to calm down when arguments get heated. 

️☑️ Set hard rules against name calling, profanity, and bringing up the past. 
 
☑️Instead of using individual names, say: “You two.” 

️☑️ Minimize comparisons. Whether comparisons are positive or negative, they have the same unintended effect on your children. 
 
☑️Give a choice: “Would you two like to go to the Peace Table, use the Wheel of Choice, or take some Positive Time Out?” 
 
☑️Show faith: “Let me know when you two have brainstormed ideas and have a solution you both feel good about trying.” 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Tips to Cope with Dyslexia

We should give our kids the confidence to be able to think that nothing is unattainable if they learn the skills that they need in order to succeed. 

Here are some tips to cope with dyslexia: 

1.“Read, read, and read some more!” –  Through good reading practice many kids overcome the immediate challenges of dyslexia. Good reading practices must go together with remediation (e.g. Swords & Stationery’s specialist tuition program), for best results. 

2.Be positive and encouraging towards your child – Dyslexic learners need plenty of positivity and encouragement from friends and family members. Let them know that the people around them are not giving up on them—this is an important factor in keeping them motivated to learn. 

3.Finding the right people and resources to help – It’s important to get in touch with people who can help your child. Finding the right people to help is crucial to your child’s success. There are many specialists in who can help your child depending on his/her needs, whether he/she has dyslexia, ADHD, or Autism Spectrum Disorders. These are learning challenges that can be circumvented and/or conditioned by experts and experienced professionals in the field. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Ten Ways to Help Children & Teens Learn from Mistakes

  1. Acknowledge that you don’t expect them to be perfect. 
  1. Let them know your love is unconditional regardless of their mistakes or lapses in judgment. 
  1. Don’t rescue kids from their mistakes. Instead, focus on the solutions. 
  1. Provide examples of your own mistakes, the consequences, and how you learned from them.  
  1. Encourage children to take responsibility for their mistakes and not blame others. 
  1. Avoid pointing out your child’s past mistakes. Instead, focus on the one at hand. 
  1. Praise children for their ability to admit their mistakes. 
  1. Praise children for their effort and courage to overcome setbacks . 
  1. Mentor your child on how to apologize when their mistakes have hurt others. 
  1. Help kids look at the good side of getting things wrong! 

Attention Seeking Behavior is Connection Seeking Behavior

Dealing with attention seeking can be challenging. Most children gain attention in school or at home in normal, positive ways. However, some children feel that misbehaving is their best way to get your attention – as any attention is better than being ignored.  

When a child appears to be attention seeking what they are doing is seeking a connection and validation. When viewed as behaviors that express a child’s need to belong, parents are better equipped to deal with these behaviors positively. 

Connection seeking stems from a child’s need to remind you that they exist. In their world they feel they need and deserve more attention than they have been receiving. Renaming from attention seeking to connection seeking allows us to analyze the behavior in a more positive perspective. Provides the opportunity for us to reflect on the reason behind the child’s feeling of need to seek out the connection, love or validation. 

Schedule special time with your child like you would with any other commitment. Connection seeking behaviors, wanted and unwanted, are part of parenting. Let’s manage it in a peaceful and positive way, without punishment. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Special Time & Fun Activities with Kids

Many parents make attempts to establish one-on-one time with their children; however, it’s often hard to squeeze this into busy family schedules. While special outings are fun, they can be hard to implement on a regular basis and can be pricey. The truth is, having a regular special time with your child can be done at home with no extra expense and still be just as unique. Here are simple indoor play ideas to get you started: 

  • Play word games and make up jokes and riddles together. You can start with jokes like ‘Knock knock’ or ‘Why did the chicken, frog, cow (whatever makes you laugh) cross the road?’ Then get your child to make up his own. 
  • Chase, wrestle or roll around together. This kind of rough-and-tumble play can help your child learn how to be strong without hurting. 
  • Play board games like ‘snakes and ladders’, dominoes and simple card games. This helps your child learn to take turns and play fair. 
  • Read books or tell stories with your child at bedtime. 

Outdoor play is not only fun, but it’s also a good exercise. Here are ideas for getting outside with your child: 

  • Make time to go to the park together – walk or ride a bike there, if you can. 
  • Give your child the chance to practice skills and get better at things like climbing and catching a ball. 
  • Lie on the grass and look for shapes or animals in the clouds. 
  • On a dark, clear night, go outside and look at the stars. 

“Special time” is a powerful tool to nurture a parent-child relationship. Positive parent-child relationships strengthen children’s emotional well-being, attachment security, coping skills, school readiness and achievement, and future capacity for relationships. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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The Importance of Reading

Early reading ignites creativity, sparks curiosity, and stimulates the imagination in young children. Often, this leads to role-play as children grow, which helps to develop other skills such as empathy, problem-solving, and morality. 
 
Think about reading. Even an elementary age child with a relatively simple book must keep in mind a group of characters, the setting, and past actions. Reading helps to strengthen memory retention skills. That’s a powerful tool for young students – and older adults, as well. 
 
Reading books aloud to children stimulates their imagination and expands their understanding of the world. It helps them develop language and listening skills and prepares them to understand the written word. Even after children learn to read by themselves, it’s still important for you to read aloud together. 
 
Research shows that regular reading: 
✅improves brain connectivity. 
✅increases vocabulary. 
✅reduces stress. 
✅lowers blood pressure and heart rate. 
✅prevents cognitive decline. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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ORAL MOTOR ACTIVITIES

STRAW RACES – have your child pick out a Pom Pom color then have their partner, or you pick out a different Pom Pom color. Next pick out a straw color each. Last place a dot or a finish line for your Pom Pom race. Whoever blows their Pom Pom to the finish line first is the winner! 
 
BLOW KISSES – have your child purse their lips to make a kiss face and blow kisses. This will increase their lip awareness, endurance, and strength. 
 
BLOW BUBBLES – this will increase your child’s lip and tongue awareness, strength, and endurance. This activity will also help your child work on their breath and breathing. 
 
USE A MIRROR – look in the mirror and have your child copy your facial expressions. Make it a fun game of “Simon Says.” Mirrors are great for visual feedback. 
 
LOLLIPOP – have your child suck on a lollipop to increase their tongue and cheek awareness. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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How to Calm an Angry Child


Managing your own anger when things get heated will make it easier to teach kids to do the same. To help tame a temper, try to be your child’s ally. 


While your own patience may be frayed by your child’s negative emotions, it’s during these episodes that you need your patience most. Reacting to kids’ meltdowns with yelling and outbursts of your own will only teach them to do the same. But keeping your cool and calmly working through a frustrating situation lets you show and teach appropriate ways to handle anger and frustration. 


Teaching by example is your most powerful tool. Speak calmly, clearly, and firmly — not with anger, blame, harsh criticisms, threats, or putdowns. Of course, that’s easier said than done.  


Remember that you’re trying to teach your kids how to handle anger. If you yell or threaten, you’ll model and ingrain the exact kinds of behavior you want to discourage. Your kids will see that you’re so angry and unable to control your own temper that you can’t help but scream — and that won’t help them learn not to scream. 


Be clear about what is and what is not acceptable without using threats, accusations, or putdowns. Your kids will get the message if you make clear, simple statements about what’s off limits and explain what you do want them to do. 


Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Why Phonemic Awareness so Important?


 
The stronger the Phonemic awareness, the stronger the mapping. Just a few repetitions are needed for permanent mapping. Once a word is mapped, the recollection never fades, and students will have the capacity to decode any word containing the same graphemes. 
 

Phonemic awareness is important well beyond the primary grades. In middle school, phonemic manipulation gaps are COMMON! This deficit comes to light in students’ decoding and encoding of multisyllabic words. It indicates that phoneme-grapheme relationships have not been mapped/anchored for permanent retrieval. 


Knowledge of phonemes is critical to learn a language, but language learning is an unconscious process that only requires immersion in an active linguistic environment; explicit instruction is not necessary. In accomplishing this remarkable feat, the child’s language learning system responds to information at the phonemic level without the need for conscious awareness of that level. Learning to read that language, if it is represented alphabetically, does require explicit knowledge of the phoneme since, unlike learning language, learning to read is a process that requires more 


 


Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Helpful ADHD Relationship Tips

Relationships thrive when you act lovingly towards one another, willing to make an effort to grow, and committed to working on themselves. 

Follow these ways to live peacefully with ADHD: 

SLOW DOWN 

Life with ADHD is often frantic. Leaving the house, finishing projects, and showing up for appointments on time can be stressful for the person with ADHD. Each day whizzes by. Sometimes you can’t even remember where you went, what you did, and who you were with. ADHD is fast-moving, in the body and in the mind. Take time to slow down your body. Intentionally, move slower. Your mind will follow. 

ACCEPT IMPERFECTIONS 

People with ADHD have a few more challenges than most. However, everyone is imperfect. Even you. Once you accept your own flaws, you will think differently about your partner’s imperfections. We are human; all of us are struggling through life individually, yet together. Judgmental, critical thoughts distance you from peace and love. 

LOOK FOR THE GOOD 

Every trait has a positive and a negative side to it. The trait that drives you crazy is probably the same trait that brings a benefit to your life. Start by giving compliments. Say something nice. Sometimes you have to look hard to find it, but if you value your relationship, it’s worth the effort.    

BE ON THE SAME TEAM 

One of the most important things you can do is join forces. Be on the same team. Bickering, competing, and criticizing are unhealthy habits. When you’re amid negativity, be it an argument or just the voice in your head, remember to regroup, readjust, and realign your thoughts so that you feel united. 

PRACTICE COMPASSION 

This is indispensable within any relationship. A person with ADHD often feels disappointed, overwhelmed, and frustrated. When a person with ADHD appears to be acting selfishly, it may be that he or she is feeling overwhelmed with their own thoughts. ADHD takes up a lot of mental and emotional bandwidth. It’s exhausting and often the ADHDer is struggling to get through the next task. Slow down, be compassionate, and refrain from judgment. Your ADHD loved one will respond lovingly to your kindness. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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How Can We Best Support a Child With Dyscalculia? 

How can we best support a child with dyscalculia? 

1. Don’t call attention to their struggle. 

Just be kind, patient, understanding and encouraging with them. 

2. Address math anxiety. 

Students with dyscalculia aren’t the only ones to have math anxiety. Talking openly about this, is a good way to normalize it for every child. If you see a child becoming overwhelmed or flustered, take a quick break to do some stretches or take some deep breaths together as a class.  

3. Use visuals. 

Use manipulatives to represent numbers. You don’t need anything fancy – you can even use paper clips or poker chips. Mix it up occasionally with small treats. 

4. Incorporate number lines. 

The number line is a great visual tool to help all children see relations between and among numbers. Graph paper helps students keep their number lines straight, neat and organized.  

5. Practice in short sessions. 

Practicing in short bursts with the child throughout the day. Even thirty seconds or a minute of quick one-on-one practice a few times a day helps students become more comfortable exploring math concepts.  

6. Allow helpful tools. 

Have items available that make math less intimidating, such as graph paper, pencils, erasers, and calculators. Provide the student with a quiet place to work or allow noise-canceling headphones.  

7. Make it playful. 

Give students time to play board games with dice, dominos and play with coins together. Playing games allows students to practice math skills without realizing it, taking away a lot of anxiety. 

8. Focus on logic and language. 

It is difficult for students with dyscalculia to memorize multiplication tables and recognize numerals. Focus on areas they might be stronger in, such as logic or vocabulary to explain math topics instead of expecting memorization to suddenly just click. Demonstrate real-world applications whenever possible. 

9. Use technology. 

Allow the student to record lectures to watch or listen to again. Email copies of your notes. Encourage students to play math apps and games. 

10. Offer extra support. 

Allowing extra time for tests, use of a calculator or other tools, or shortened homework assignments. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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6 Ways to Show Faith in Your Child