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What are Executive Functions?

 

Executive function is like the CEO of the brain. It’s in charge of making sure things get done. When kids have issues with executive functioning, any task that requires planning, organization, memory, time management and flexible thinking becomes a challenge. The more you know about the challenges, the better you’ll be able to help your child build her executive skills and manage the difficulties.

Positive Strategies for Managing Aggressive Behavior

Children need to understand that all their feelings are acceptable and normal, including anger. Everyone gets upset sometimes and wants to do hurtful things. As adults, we can help our kids learn how to stay in charge of what they say and do even if they are feeling very angry or upset at that moment. Being able to recognize when you are feeling upset, take care of your feelings in positive ways, and act safely no matter how you feel inside, mare tremendous life skills. 

Here are some strategies to help your child tame their aggression: 

  • Stay calm. When a child is expressing a lot of emotion, and the parents meet that with more emotion, it can increase the child’s aggression. Instead, try to model emotional regulation for your child. 

  • Don’t give in to tantrums or aggressive behavior. This is rewarding and reinforces the inappropriate behavior. 

  • Catch your child being good. Reward good behavior, even when your child isn’t doing anything out of the ordinary. Recognition and praise are powerful all on their own. 

  • Help kids learn to express themselves by naming emotions. Validate what your child is feeling and encourage verbal, instead of physical, expression. 

  • Know your child’s patterns and identify triggers. Break down tasks into simple steps and give time warnings. Set goals then reward your child when he or she meets those goals. 

  • Find appropriate rewards. Try rewards like half an hour of special time with mom or dad, choosing what the family eats for dinner, or selecting what the family watches for movie night. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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6 Principles of Positive Parenting

Raising a child can be a daunting task that makes you rethink your principles and beliefs and instill doubts as to whether you are doing it right. Though each parent will have their own style, there are certain principles between parent and child that will help them grow in a positive environment.  

  1. Misbehavior is your child’s way of expressing an unmet need 
  1. Validate your child’s efforts 
  1. Respect should be given both ways 
  1. Never punish your child for their feelings 
  1. Express confidence and faith in their skills 
  1. Remember, the worse they feel, the worse they behave 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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CLASSROOM TIPS FOR CHILDREN WITH ADHD

ADHD makes it difficult for those afflicted to focus on a single subject and retain the information being taught. Here are some classroom tips to assist you in certain aspects of learning: 

Homework 

  • Divide large tasks into bite-size objectives 
  • Give good examples for the child to take inspiration from 
  • Help the child with time-management 
  • Different types of organizational aids may be required  

Social Interaction 

  • Practice social interactions through role-playing 
  • Introduce social opportunities through family friends and organizations 
  • Positive recognition for their progress 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Help Your Child Cope with Frustration

We cannot always control outcomes or our child’s feelings. However, we can help change their perspective and equip them with the tools to deal with life’s frustrations. Frustration is a natural reaction in life. But whether it leads to fear, anger, and defeat or it is channeled into a more appropriate way can make all the difference in your child’s experiences in life. 

Start with a few of these techniques in diffusing whatever situation you encounter: 

  • Take deep breaths. 
  • Ask questions and listen. 
  • Identify the culprit or reason for their frustration. 
  • Respond by validating their feelings followed by solution-seeking. 
  • Encourage using a controlled voice. 
  • Establish rules before a meltdown. 
  • Redirect emotions or activity so it benefits your child. 

Learning to manage and overcome frustrations builds resilience—but it can be hard for parents to stand back and let children cope on their own. Here are the three ways to help kids manage frustration: 

1. Stay calm 

For some children, seeing their parent upset can increase their anxiety. Keeping calm can prevent this dynamic from taking hold and may help you to more clearly focus on what’s needed in the situation. 

2. Be consistent 

All children need to know that they can count on their parent to guide them, support them, take care of their essential needs, and love them. Even in times of conflict, knowing how you will act when they are upset can lead to security and comfort in the relationship. 

3. Practice good communication skills 

Children often learn skills by modeling after parents! So, as you try to communicate with your child, focus on being patient, being a careful and respectful listener, and remembering to be a role model for problem solving. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Five Ways Play Benefits Kids

Play is one of the most important aspects of a child’s life because children learn to think creatively and interact socially. Through play, they develop physically and discover a slew of emotional skills, and they learn how to process the world. In short, play is pivotal to your child’s development. 

When children oversee their own play, it provides a foundation for their future mental health as older children and adults.  

1. Play gives children a chance to find and develop a connection to their own self-identified and self-guided interests. As they choose the activities that make up free play, kids learn to direct themselves and pursue and elaborate on their interests in a way that can sustain them throughout life. 

2. It is through play that children first learn how to make decisions, solve problems, exert self-control, and follow rules. As children negotiate both their physical and social environments through play, they can gain a sense of mastery over their world. Play offers enormous psychological benefits, it protects children from anxiety and depression which often occur when an individual feels a lack of control over his or her own life.   

3. Children learn to handle their emotions, including anger and fear, during play. In free play, children put themselves into both physically and socially challenging situations and learn to control the emotions that arise from these stressors. 

4. Play helps children make friends and learn to get along with each other as equals. Social play is a natural means of making friends and learning to treat one another fairly.   

5. Most importantly, play is a source of happiness. When children are asked about the activities that bring them happiness, they say they are happier when playing with friends than in any other situation. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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How to Help Your Perfectionist Child

As parents, we want our children to excel. We teach our kids to aim high and master new things from an early age. But, when reaching for perfection turns compulsive, it becomes an unhealthy struggle. And this type of pervasive perfectionism can become debilitating to a gifted child. Gifted perfectionists can be unsatisfied with their performance on anything – even when they’ve done beautifully. 

To help your perfectionist loosen up: 

  1. Provide unconditional love and respect. 

Let them know you love and care for them no matter what they do (or don’t do). Even if they “fail” at something, you still love them. 

2. Give specific praise and help them focus on the process rather than the outcome. 

Some examples include: “I love how hard you worked on that.” “You are so determined. I can see you spent a lot of time on that.” “Look at all those ideas! You really put a lot of effort into writing this.” Try to avoid using words such as brilliant, genius, and perfect. 

3. Acknowledge and connect with your child’s negative feelings. 

Try to acknowledge the feelings without judging them, without trying to “fix” them, or insisting they should feel a different way. You may try saying, “It sounds like that was disappointing for you. That’s happened to me too and it can be upsetting for a while.” 

4. Model and encourage self-compassion. 

Teach them to talk with kindness to themselves. You might try saying, “When I mess up, I think to myself: I made a mistake, but it’s okay. I can try again, or I’ll do better next time.” 

5. Provide opportunities for failure. 

Children need to learn that it takes time and lots of practice to master new skills. Whatever you can do to give your child the opportunity to learn that mistakes and setbacks are a part of growth will make these experiences less likely to result in feelings of inadequacy. 

6. Help them set realistic standards for themselves and their time. 
Perfectionistic kids are likely to get overwhelmed by their expectations and procrastinate or avoid something if the stakes are too high. Discuss realistic goals with them and help them break assignments into smaller, manageable tasks. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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MINDFUL THINGS TO DO FOR ANXIETY RELIEF

Anxiety is the body’s natural response to stress, characterized by an increase in heart rate, breathing, sweating, and panic attacks. A lot of children often experience anxiety during their youth due to several factors such as social anxiety, academic grades, a loss of a loved one and so on. Anxiety or panic attacks can become a traumatic experience for those who have undergone great stress. It is important to take a step back and reflect. These are some tips for facing anxiety: 

 
Practice Breathing Techniques 

Panic attacks often leave you breathless, and unable to think straight. Practicing breathing techniques in these situations help you to calm down and ensure you are getting the right amount of oxygen so that your brain can function properly, and thus better evaluate the situation you are in. 

 
Write down your feelings 

Writing is a good way to step back and look at the problem from a different perspective. It allows you to be the author of your own life and gives you the sense of control that you often feel like you lost in times of crisis. You can reflect on your decisions and actions, and this is also a cathartic experience as well. 

 
Recite Affirmations 

 
Words spoken aloud can often become reality. These words can release you from negativity and fear and empower you to stay strong.  

Meditate 

Meditating is a good way to simultaneously do all these. Proper breathing is needed for this exercise, in which you can spiritually reflect upon your life in a calm and serene mood.  

Live in the moment 

Society will often put you in a place where you follow a set routine every day that you take no pride nor happiness in, and yet expect you to faithfully follow that routine for the rest of your life. Sometimes, it is better just to live, even for a few moments. Take that vacation for once or do something you have been aching to do like host a barbeque or go out with your friends. This will help give you respite in times of great pressure. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Tips on Listening to Your Child

Some kids are naturally expressive, and they talk everything out, while others may need a lot of encouragement to be able to talk to you. The first thing is to be open to listening and giving your child your undivided attention. 

Here are some tips on getting your child to talk to you and being open to listening: 

  • Set aside a time when you both can talk to each other without any interference. If face to face talking seems difficult, go for a walk and talk when you are side by side.  
  • Be receptive and open to all kinds of feelings, without getting angry or frustrated. This means that the talks will not just be happy ones, but also negative topics like anger, fear and anxiety. 
  • Remember that children do have the same maturity as adults do. So, think of the times when you were a child and how difficult it was to communicate when you have so much on your mind but do not have enough words to express it. 
  • Do not be in a hurry to respond. Let your child finish talking and then respond sensitively. When your child is talking, do not jump in or interfere. Never try to put your words in your child’s mouth. 
  • Refrain from lecturing. Lecturing is a one-way of putting your view across, while an engaging conversation fosters their own thinking process and conclusions. 
  • Make conversations inspiring for your child. Stories are a perfect way to inspire young kids. Always emphasize the positive. 
  • Use language that your child will understand, avoid using words that he may find difficult to comprehend. Avoid using slangs or complicated words – talk in the same sense as your child does. 
  • Let your child know that you are listening to him, repeat what he says and make eye contact. 
  • Be curious and interested in the conversation. Being actively involved in the conversation is extremely important to let your child know that his views and opinions do matter. 
  • Never judge, criticize, blame or get angry over something that your child has done or said. Work together as a team to solve your problems. 

When you listen to your child, you get to know what they are thinking, feeling and going through. Childhood is a difficult phase, and with limited vocabulary, children often find it difficult to communicate their feelings. It is imperative that children be heard, so that they do not bottle-up their feelings. It also means that your children will listen to you more, because they have been heard. This opens avenues for healthy conversations, which are fruitful and brings parents and children closer. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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The Way We Talk to Our Children Becomes Their Inner Voice

Little kids tend to have harsh inner voices; they tell themselves they are “bad” easily. As kids get older, they begin to modify their self-criticism, accepting that they can both do things incorrectly and remedy situations. 

What they think of themselves is significantly influenced by how they think their parents view them. Your voice, whether gentle and kind, empathic and warm, or strident and harsh, becomes a big part of their inner voice. They treat themselves the way they have been treated. 

Changing the way, we talk to our children takes practice and intentionality. Why is it a great idea to talk respectfully and positively to our child? The way we talk to our child is going to influence them for a lifetime. 

  • It builds stronger bonds and relationships. 
  • Our children feel worthy. 
  • Our children feel loved. 
  • Our children listen to us better. 
  • Children imitate our talk. 
  • The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. 
  • Your child is more likely to respect and trust you. 
  • The child develops higher self-esteem. 
  • The child is more confident. 

Having meaningful conversations with our children and giving specific praise not only helps our children feel loved, but it also lays the foundation for what they think about themselves. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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How to Apologize to Your Kids

Teaching children how to apologize from an early age makes it easier for them to feel empathy. It helps them take responsibility for their actions and be able to control themselves. This type of behavior sometimes isn’t that simple to learn.  

Learning to apologize, and doing it, can improve your relationship with children and make it easier to teach them values. Knowing how to apologize to a child correctly and effectively is important. It’s not just about saying you’re sorry, doing it the right way. 

  • A child can feel bad about something you think is meaningless. Don’t undermine their emotions. Recognize when you’ve wronged them and apologize sincerely. 
  • When you apologize to a child, explain why you’re doing it. “I’m apologizing because I told you we were going to the movies, and we didn’t’. I wanted to keep my promise, but I couldn’t. I’m sorry.” 
  • As soon as you feel you did something wrong, don’t wait too long to apologize. Don’t let them get frustrated and disappointed for long. 
  • Finally, promise them that it won’t happen again. Telling them you’ll try harder and showing you worry about them, is a way to lead by example, to inspire them to do the same and learn from you. 

In short, being able to lead by example and properly teach children the value of forgiveness will lead to a more humane and respectful society. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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PARENTING TIPS FOR KIDS THAT ARE NOT LISTENING

Kids will at times be difficult, it is in their nature. Often at times like these, parents tend to punish disobedience without analyzing what is causing the problem. We must consider that children are emotionally volatile yet delicate. Perhaps there is a need to assess what troubles them so that you may know the root cause of their rebellion.

Try to ask yourself: 

  1. Are they hungry or tired? 
  1. Have I been giving them enough attention? 
  1. Would a change in scenery improve their behavior? 
  1. What happened in the last hour that made them act this way? 

Then, 

  1. Allow yourself to get down to their level 
  1. Ask for eye contact 
  1. Tell them what they can and cannot do 
  1. Ask them to repeat what they have been told 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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NON-DRUG TREATMENTS FOR ADHD

Treatment for ADHD usually entails medications, behavioral therapy, counseling, and educational services. These are medical stimulants and are widely used in addressing the disorders in the brain for those diagnosed with ADHD. However, for those who are looking for non-drug alternatives, here are some ways you could alleviate the symptoms of ADHD: 

  • Behavioral Therapy 
  • Coaching 
  • Neurofeedback 
  • Music Therapy 
  • Assistive Technology 
  • Exercise 
  • Healthy diet 
  • Food Supplements 
  • Chiropractic Care 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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