Importance of Praise and Encouragement

Praise and encouragement help parents to be more positive, it reduces conflict, promotes cooperation and reduces the likelihood that young people will engage in risky behavior. A compliment, a gesture, a facial expression, a simple hug, or a high-five can generate self-worth and pride in children.  

As children grow older, gaining approval from a parent or guardian becomes very important in their lives. Here are the benefits for children if they receive praise and encouragement: 

• Children learn who they are and the things that they do are pleasing to their parents and caregivers. 

• Children develop a personal sense of self-worth and self-esteem. 

• Children who believe they have self-worth go on to treat themselves and others positively. 

• Children with positive self-worth tend to get better grades in school, do not get discouraged easily, and have more productive lives overall.  

• Giving compliments strengthen your bond with them and enhance your relationship. 

Make your own positive phrases by saying what you feel in your heart each time your child makes you proud. You can adapt your praises depending upon the age of your child and their own level of understanding. 

Even if your child does something badly, always try to look for the positives in any situation. There is nearly always a bright side to focus on, and children and parents alike will all benefit from taking the positives, rather than the negatives, from any situation. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Primary Pathways

Each child has their own strengths and weaknesses in learning. Thus, it is important to be diverse in our method of teaching and understand how they learn best. 

Here are the four primary pathways of information gathered by the senses: 

Auditory – Learning through hearing, or more accurately, listening. Auditory learners not only learn through listening but can better understand if they are able to read the material aloud themselves.  

Visual – Gathering information through the sense of sight. Visual learners tend to visualize concepts or equations in their minds because it is how they understand best. Charts, graphs, and other visual aids are beneficial to visual learners because they can pick up patterns and images better. 

Tactile – The use of hands or sense of touch in general for learning. Tactile learners find meaning through the manipulation of objects which represent certain concepts, such as the use of counting chips in math. 

Kinesthetic – Learning through movement. Kinesthetic learners often project what they are thinking such as counting numbers using several different limbs or methods, perhaps mimicking the teacher to better understand what is being taught.  

 Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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How to Deal with Temper Tantrums

Young children don’t plan to frustrate or embarrass their parents. For most toddlers, tantrums are a way to express frustration. For older children, tantrums might be a learned behavior. 

Typically, the best way to respond to a tantrum is to stay calm. If you respond with loud, angry outbursts, your child might imitate your behavior. Shouting at a child to calm down is also likely to make things worse. Instead, try to prevent tantrums from happening in the first place, whenever possible. Here are some ideas that may help: 

✅ Give plenty of positive attention. 

Get in the habit of catching your child being good. Reward your little one with praise and attention for positive behavior. 

✅ Provide direction 

Try redirecting the tantrum behavior by suggesting that he or she ask nicely, or in a different way. When your child calms down and asks in a more appropriate way, praise him or her and supply the item. This gives children a strong incentive to stop throwing tantrums. 

✅ Seek distraction 

Children have tantrums out of frustration and because they do not have good impulse control. Thus, distracting a child before he or she escalates into a full-fledged tantrum is one of the best things you can do to save your sanity. Point to an interesting picture, share an interesting item you have with you, or practice singing a song together. 

✅ Be calm 

Control your own behavior. Try whispering. This often causes children to be quiet just so they can hear. Moreover, calming yourself can help your child to calm down as well. 

✅ Don’t give in 

If you give in to a tantrum control, even once, you teach your child that tantrums work, and that makes him or her more likely to throw an even bigger tantrum next time. Establish a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Help Your Child Manage Their Moods

Kids’ moods can change in a flash – she’s happy, then bored, cranky, then sweet. No matter what your child is feeling, your first job as a parent is to empathize. Let your child know that you care what they are feeling, and you have a sense of what they are feeling. 

Managing moods is not something that people are born knowing how to do. If they don’t have good ways to deal with bad feelings, they may not have the motivation to decide to do the healthiest things. Rather than arguing about their attitude, you can: 

  • Acknowledge that they are upset, but don’t try to discuss it right now. 
  • Give them time to collect themselves. Physical activity helps kids burn off frustration.  
  •  After they are calm, then you can talk.  
  • Eat dinner together to creates a natural space for your family to talk about what’s on their minds. 
  • Talk while you’re doing other things. Keep the conversation casual by doing other things at the same time, like driving, shopping, or cooking. 
  •  Don’t dismiss what your kids are feeling. Understand where they are coming from and resist the temptation to downplay their concerns. 
  • Make sure your kids get regular physical activity. Exercise can also make kids more self-confident and feel better about themselves. 
  •  Help your kids find ways to relax. It’s important for them to find ways to chill out. Tell them to try finding a quiet spot in your home to read, draw, or listen to music. Or trying deep breathing exercises or yoga videos on YouTube. 

 Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Dealing With Sibling Rivalry

How many times have you had to play referee between your kids? If you can’t stand to stay out of your children’s fights and decide to become involved, the most effective way is to put your children in the same boat. This method makes sure there is no accidental favoritism that can erode the sibling relationship.  It honors the fact that in any conflict, both parties can influence the outcome. 

Since fighting requires both children to keep the situation hostile and unresolved, both should experience the same discipline for their disruptive antics, regardless of who started it, who had it first, or who owns it.  None of those matters!  If fighting erupts and doesn’t resolve itself, and you feel you must step in, try these several approaches that can help resolve conflicts: 

️☑️ Instead of intervening in every argument, talk your children through how they can stand up for themselves and try to resolve the issue before reporting to you. 

☑️ Insist that everyone take a break to calm down when arguments get heated. 

️☑️ Set hard rules against name calling, profanity, and bringing up the past. 
☑️Instead of using individual names, say: “You two.” 

️☑️ Minimize comparisons. Whether comparisons are positive or negative, they have the same unintended effect on your children. 
☑️Give a choice: “Would you two like to go to the Peace Table, use the Wheel of Choice, or take some Positive Time Out?” 
☑️Show faith: “Let me know when you two have brainstormed ideas and have a solution you both feel good about trying.” 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Tips to Cope with Dyslexia

We should give our kids the confidence to be able to think that nothing is unattainable if they learn the skills that they need in order to succeed. 

Here are some tips to cope with dyslexia: 

1.“Read, read, and read some more!” –  Through good reading practice many kids overcome the immediate challenges of dyslexia. Good reading practices must go together with remediation (e.g. Swords & Stationery’s specialist tuition program), for best results. 

2.Be positive and encouraging towards your child – Dyslexic learners need plenty of positivity and encouragement from friends and family members. Let them know that the people around them are not giving up on them—this is an important factor in keeping them motivated to learn. 

3.Finding the right people and resources to help – It’s important to get in touch with people who can help your child. Finding the right people to help is crucial to your child’s success. There are many specialists in who can help your child depending on his/her needs, whether he/she has dyslexia, ADHD, or Autism Spectrum Disorders. These are learning challenges that can be circumvented and/or conditioned by experts and experienced professionals in the field. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Ten Ways to Help Children & Teens Learn from Mistakes

  1. Acknowledge that you don’t expect them to be perfect. 
  1. Let them know your love is unconditional regardless of their mistakes or lapses in judgment. 
  1. Don’t rescue kids from their mistakes. Instead, focus on the solutions. 
  1. Provide examples of your own mistakes, the consequences, and how you learned from them.  
  1. Encourage children to take responsibility for their mistakes and not blame others. 
  1. Avoid pointing out your child’s past mistakes. Instead, focus on the one at hand. 
  1. Praise children for their ability to admit their mistakes. 
  1. Praise children for their effort and courage to overcome setbacks . 
  1. Mentor your child on how to apologize when their mistakes have hurt others. 
  1. Help kids look at the good side of getting things wrong! 

Attention Seeking Behavior is Connection Seeking Behavior

Dealing with attention seeking can be challenging. Most children gain attention in school or at home in normal, positive ways. However, some children feel that misbehaving is their best way to get your attention – as any attention is better than being ignored.  

When a child appears to be attention seeking what they are doing is seeking a connection and validation. When viewed as behaviors that express a child’s need to belong, parents are better equipped to deal with these behaviors positively. 

Connection seeking stems from a child’s need to remind you that they exist. In their world they feel they need and deserve more attention than they have been receiving. Renaming from attention seeking to connection seeking allows us to analyze the behavior in a more positive perspective. Provides the opportunity for us to reflect on the reason behind the child’s feeling of need to seek out the connection, love or validation. 

Schedule special time with your child like you would with any other commitment. Connection seeking behaviors, wanted and unwanted, are part of parenting. Let’s manage it in a peaceful and positive way, without punishment. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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Special Time & Fun Activities with Kids

Many parents make attempts to establish one-on-one time with their children; however, it’s often hard to squeeze this into busy family schedules. While special outings are fun, they can be hard to implement on a regular basis and can be pricey. The truth is, having a regular special time with your child can be done at home with no extra expense and still be just as unique. Here are simple indoor play ideas to get you started: 

  • Play word games and make up jokes and riddles together. You can start with jokes like ‘Knock knock’ or ‘Why did the chicken, frog, cow (whatever makes you laugh) cross the road?’ Then get your child to make up his own. 
  • Chase, wrestle or roll around together. This kind of rough-and-tumble play can help your child learn how to be strong without hurting. 
  • Play board games like ‘snakes and ladders’, dominoes and simple card games. This helps your child learn to take turns and play fair. 
  • Read books or tell stories with your child at bedtime. 

Outdoor play is not only fun, but it’s also a good exercise. Here are ideas for getting outside with your child: 

  • Make time to go to the park together – walk or ride a bike there, if you can. 
  • Give your child the chance to practice skills and get better at things like climbing and catching a ball. 
  • Lie on the grass and look for shapes or animals in the clouds. 
  • On a dark, clear night, go outside and look at the stars. 

“Special time” is a powerful tool to nurture a parent-child relationship. Positive parent-child relationships strengthen children’s emotional well-being, attachment security, coping skills, school readiness and achievement, and future capacity for relationships. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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The Importance of Reading

Early reading ignites creativity, sparks curiosity, and stimulates the imagination in young children. Often, this leads to role-play as children grow, which helps to develop other skills such as empathy, problem-solving, and morality. 
Think about reading. Even an elementary age child with a relatively simple book must keep in mind a group of characters, the setting, and past actions. Reading helps to strengthen memory retention skills. That’s a powerful tool for young students – and older adults, as well. 
Reading books aloud to children stimulates their imagination and expands their understanding of the world. It helps them develop language and listening skills and prepares them to understand the written word. Even after children learn to read by themselves, it’s still important for you to read aloud together. 
Research shows that regular reading: 
✅improves brain connectivity. 
✅increases vocabulary. 
✅reduces stress. 
✅lowers blood pressure and heart rate. 
✅prevents cognitive decline. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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STRAW RACES – have your child pick out a Pom Pom color then have their partner, or you pick out a different Pom Pom color. Next pick out a straw color each. Last place a dot or a finish line for your Pom Pom race. Whoever blows their Pom Pom to the finish line first is the winner! 
BLOW KISSES – have your child purse their lips to make a kiss face and blow kisses. This will increase their lip awareness, endurance, and strength. 
BLOW BUBBLES – this will increase your child’s lip and tongue awareness, strength, and endurance. This activity will also help your child work on their breath and breathing. 
USE A MIRROR – look in the mirror and have your child copy your facial expressions. Make it a fun game of “Simon Says.” Mirrors are great for visual feedback. 
LOLLIPOP – have your child suck on a lollipop to increase their tongue and cheek awareness. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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6 Ways to Show Faith in Your Child

How to Calm an Angry Child

Managing your own anger when things get heated will make it easier to teach kids to do the same. To help tame a temper, try to be your child’s ally. 

While your own patience may be frayed by your child’s negative emotions, it’s during these episodes that you need your patience most. Reacting to kids’ meltdowns with yelling and outbursts of your own will only teach them to do the same. But keeping your cool and calmly working through a frustrating situation lets you show and teach appropriate ways to handle anger and frustration. 

Teaching by example is your most powerful tool. Speak calmly, clearly, and firmly — not with anger, blame, harsh criticisms, threats, or putdowns. Of course, that’s easier said than done.  

Remember that you’re trying to teach your kids how to handle anger. If you yell or threaten, you’ll model and ingrain the exact kinds of behavior you want to discourage. Your kids will see that you’re so angry and unable to control your own temper that you can’t help but scream — and that won’t help them learn not to scream. 

Be clear about what is and what is not acceptable without using threats, accusations, or putdowns. Your kids will get the message if you make clear, simple statements about what’s off limits and explain what you do want them to do. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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