All behavior is communicating something.
It is easy to react and even feel offended by our children’s comments and behaviors. We instinctively react out of anger to protect our feelings and to preserve our identity as a good parent.
However, when we respond out of anger and frustration to our child’s behaviors, we miss the message they are really trying to send.
Is it easy to do every time? Of course not! We can’t expect to, because we’re not perfect parents.
But, if we want to have a genuine and responsive connection with our children and hear their true need, we need to dig deeper.
Here are the keys to improve your listening skills:
Create a special time and place for listening.
Use active listening.
Here are Tips on Listening to Your Child:
- Listening carefully is how you gather information about what’s going on in your child’s life and head.
- Listening effectively builds strong relationships.
- Listening thoughtfully shows respect.
- Listening is always the first step in solving problems.
- Listening to your child’s perspective will teach you a lot. Kids are smarter than most grown-ups think, and they generally know what they need. Listen to your kids, and they will teach you how to raise them.
- If you want your child to listen to you, you’ll need to first listen to her. A child who is listened to learns how to listen. And until she learns how to listen to you, it’s the same as telling your problems to the bathroom mirror—no matter how eloquently you express yourself, nobody will be hearing you but you.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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