Parent regulation is often more important than correcting your child’s behavior. Certain behaviors from our kids can be very triggering for so many reasons, so your calm state is even more important.

How do you begin to better regulate yourself as a parent, so your kids can be better regulated?  

Start by saying kind, gentle, and calm words.

Tell your child how much you adore them (be specific, be genuine, be transparent).

Validate their experiences.

Empathize with their emotions.

Join them in talking about their struggles.

Normalize their experiences. 

Watch how that warm parenting transforms your child and ultimately the parent-child relationship.