When our kids are upset, it can sometimes trigger us to be upset too and instead of responding to our kids, we react. Rather than trying to force your child not to feel certain things, teach them how to deal with uncomfortable emotions.
Your goal shouldn’t be to change your child’s emotions. Avoid saying things like:
- “Quit being so overdramatic.”
- “Don’t get so mad over something so small.”
- “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”
- “You’re freaking out over nothing.”
- “Don’t be such a baby.”
- “Stop worrying about something so silly.”
- “You’re overreacting.”
- “It’s not a big deal.”
Understanding their emotions and responding appropriately is an important part of your child’s cognitive development. In fact, when kids have a solid grasp on their emotions, research has shown that they do better in school and have more positive interactions with their peers and their teachers.
As your child grows up, they’ll gain better control over their emotions. And acknowledging his emotions is a quicker way to reduce difficult behavior than if you brushed them aside. Look for teachable moments to coach your child. And be prepared to work on managing your own emotions better.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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